Grieving widower dating web
A few weeks ago I wrote about the importance of not making someone the sole source of your happiness, your reason for being or your purpose, and explained that on a number of occasions I had believed I wouldn’t love again, that I wouldn’t recover and that I couldn’t be happy without them, only to discover that this was completely exaggerated and untrue.
While it is understandable to initially bunk off work, be anti-social, sob into your tea and biccies or whatever at home, get miserably drunk, and essentially hold yourself a pity party for a month or so, doing it on an extended basis is basically wallowing and removing your own accountability to take care of yourself and work your way through the breakup.(Take action) If you’re not prepared to answer these questions and move on to the next thought process, give your mind something else to think about.Boredom is dangerous because when you are bored, you will find that you use that physical and mental energy on them.Next thing you know, you’re hijacked by nostalgia or blame, obsessing, or even dialling or texting them.One of the things that will stall the process of letting go is if there is an underlying fear of ‘what happens next’. When I don’t have them to cry and complain over and to think about morning, noon and night, what am I going to do then?